Its My Wedding 2

I will start this post with the quote,

"After the chills and fever of love, how nice is the 98.6º of marriage"  ~Mignon McLaughlin, The Neurotics Notebook, 1960.

How aptly put! Our objective here is to try and discover, why the so chilly feelings of love which envelopes the proposal and wedding celebrations period , fade away too soon after the wedding or in the worst case scenarios usher in divorce proceedings or "celebrations" as some now see it.

One thing we have pointed out is that, a lot of women ( we will stick with the ladies) don't plan for their marriage. They plan for their wedding! They allow the euphoria of the wedding take their focus away from the main game. 

Incidentally, there are no marriage planners  ( as against wedding planners ) , which means its a job you have to do yourself, for yourself.

Marriage is to be planned for, even before you get proposed to and the planning continues way beyond the wedding.

The same way you , don't expect to see that sumptuous meal in your head, on the table without preparing or buying it, is the same way you shouldn 't expect to see the fairy tale marriage in your head, without working it out.

We  ladies should know that marriage is a union between the 'imperfect you' and the 'imperfect him', trying to find a common ground of perfection. This  means  that , if  there  are  vital  qualities  you  can  not  compromise  in  а man  then  always   make  sure  that  those  qualities  are  there  before  you  say  yes .

Have you ever wondered why some couples separate because " I love and want kids, he doesn't he loves his job" Seriously? Were you so blindly in love that you never noticed, he would readily shift tables because the kids over there were making noise? No I don't think so, you probably took it for granted that he will love kids too.
Bottom line is, if we really understand what it is we want to get into (the union called marriage) we will start planning for it from the word go!