One of the most vital decisions a couple can make is deciding where to settle and make their home as a family.
Usually, moving places has never been easy, more so when you now have to take family's present and future interests into considerations.
As a single man or woman,what basically determines where you settle is your job. Unfortunately even as couples, I have discovered that this is no different.
Deciding to live where you can find a job is good but choosing a place where you can fit in and a place that best supports your core values and will offer long term rewards is better.This is because every job is temporal but you will have to permanently deal with family and personal non-work interests.
Here are a few of the issues I and my husband has averted our minds to in deciding where to finally call home.
1. Which city offers us the opportunity to improve ourselves and reach our career potentials and even affords us career flexibility? That would be the perfect place.
2. Where can we make a contribution / an impact that will not be drowned as a result of over crowding. You know the philosophy about 'finding a need and meeting it?.
3. A place where we will be celebrated is better than than where we will be tolerated. For example, a place where diverse cultures and colors are already accepted will be better than a place where they are shunned.
4. If we say we are raising kids outside our home country, how will the society they are going to grow up in perceive them? What does history have about 'people like us' and where we want to settle? Because history always has a way of repeating itself. Ever wondered why blacks flock the UK, the US? Ever wondered why every tribe in Nigeria feels at home in Lagos? The explanation is above!
5. Lastly, we have decided not settle anywhere that is inaccessible (meaning it could be far but they would not be precluded from visiting, especially by any law) to family and friends because in the long run nothing is as important as family and relationships!
