How I Spent My "Val"

First, I have always wondered why everybody's name changes to Valentine on Feb 14 and suddenly the people in your life that you love now go by  the name Val, whether male or female. Lol.

Anyway, I don't have a Val in my life (*eyez pooping*?)....I have Uche! And I celebrate him everyday which means yesterday wasn't left out.

However, yesterday the 15th of February happens to be our anniversary so you will understand why henceforth, the 14th will be a lesser date for me as long February is concerned.

Sadly, the foundation of St.Valentine's day celebration as we know it today is wrong, so also is almost every other celebration out there no matter what justification we give them.

Some also argue that Love should not be dictated and therefore there shouldn't be a date set aside for showing it or celebrating it and I concur.

But there are also some folks who have become so emasculated in the things of life or are so nonchalant that were it not for such dates, they would never remember to say "I Love You"

 So, my conclusion is this- if Val's day is what floats your boat, the only day that you remember to reiterate your love for your wife, husband, children, family and friends, then by all means do it on that day.

A lot of us while still single secretly crave for that one person that we care about to acknowledge his/her love on that day among other days, so how come we won't legitimately do it now that we have him/her forever by our side?

If you are a Christian couple and you are trying to find a justification  for celebrating love on Valentine's day, then read what Marriage Missions, a christian organisation has to say about Val's  here.

Now back to me... :-)

Your Work Spouse Versus Your Real Life Spouse.

Work Spouse situations arise out of the obvious reason that most of us spend more time at work than at home with our real spouse.

For instance, you work round the clock, you get home exhausted, you would really want to spend time with your DW (Dear Wife) but there's not just enough strength. You barely manage to go through with dinner (or sometimes not) and you hit the bed. It follows naturally that you will confide in someone and that someone would be that person you easily bond with at work, since this is where you spend your peek periods or that person who by their job description become privy of even some personal aspects of your life.

But before you read this article, my two pence is; in order to avoid issues with your real spouse, always be open about your relationships at work and everywhere else. Never give room for unhealthy assumptions.