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| Mr and Mrs Smith against the world. |
I am asking this question because I know that couples disagree a lot. But in my understanding, it should be you and your spouse against the world. Sometimes this is somewhat hard in situations where you know that your spouse is the wrong one in a fight, not necessarily physical combat but maybe a fight for rights or opinion.
I took some time to get the opinions of a few happily married folks and here is what they said;
"If it is outside, there is no way I won't defend my husband, even if he is very wrong. But its a different case when we are indoors, I will tell him how wrong he is or was" -Jin .O
"I will defend my wife even in front of our kids, when we are alone I still have to be careful and gentle in correcting her, so we can sleep in peace"- D.E
"It really depends on the situation, if its an altercation and I notice she is the wrong one, I will just take her away from the scene before I do any other thing but I will never let the other party know that I thought she was wrong" -Dave.
So apparently, most couple will defend each other in public. But I was wondering if the situation will still be the same where the said disagreement is between your spouse and your family member(s) and your husband or wife is damn wrong?
If you would defend your spouse, in what type of occasions and why, any instances where you have already done so?
Please lets hear you!
2 comments:
I would defend my wife if she were wrong in public. Although I may not necessarily be very vocal if she is apparently wrong. But I think I would defend her still. There would be time enough to blame her for her conduct in the privacy of our homes. Besides appearances can be deceptive so it does not make any sense to lay blames in the heat of the situation without first hearing from the person concerned!
This is a topic has intensified as I have become older and years have been added to my marriage of over 32 years.
I can remember incidents that happen in public, in our early marriage, that haunt me to this day. I lacked maturity, courage and wisdom to have said something. When I would wait to tell him in private, he would dismiss it or tell me that no one thought that way but me.I would never admit to any wrong doing. It's I finally decided to speak up, and share with our pastor in counseling that I would tell all. Why because I found that If no one knew but us, then the negative actions would thrive. However when I let someone in on the problem actions they were confronted and wouldn't last as long. Listen, I blame myself for going along with him for some many years. I started to defend myself step by step and I am not weenie either, I just believe,love and hope for the best in him. I am now to the point where I worked to keep who I am and put boundries of what I will and will not torlerate. I found that the incidents of the past, would be handled in a different today. Hope this made sense?
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